If I offer you my trust am I –
- Agreeing with you?
- Doing what you ask of me?
- Offering robust feedback?
- Protecting your feelings?
- None of the above?
What is considered a sign of trust to one may appear as a betrayal to another.
We cannot define the minutia of every interaction, but without a shared understanding of what trust means it becomes another meaningless word on the annual report next to ‘integrity’ and ‘collaboration’.
And yet, because trust is vital to personal and professional life, we need to understand what it is and how to build it.
One way to understand trust is as a set of agreements about how we will behave towards one another. These agreements may be implicit or explicit and, over time, they may change.
For example, an implicit agreement is that parents feed their children. While parenting obviously requires more than this, a child’s dependency demonstrates the way in which obligations emerge by virtue of the type of relationship that exists.